Dr Amy’s book Push Back was published this past week and I spent the money and wasted a couple hours wading through her blatherings these past few days.
She (and the 23 guys who play her on the internet) published a trailer for her book:
And she has been all over the web promoting the book. A summary of the various places where people are chatting is found here on her blog.
So, I will keep this short as I plan to use this review on Amazon as well as here on my blog.
Guilt in the age of Natural Parenting
Amy Tutuer, MD
As the queen of sanctimommies I was really sad that Dr. Amy did not mention
I only pop in to read her blog every couple of months, so I don’t know if she has continued harping against my lifestyle choices, but I have to say, overall I felt really left out.
Why Dr. Amy, Why?
After so many great chats on blogs, chat rooms, our own personal blogs, and in the comment section of every newspaper and magazine of note HOW did you fail, I mean utterly FAIL to mention us in your book?
You dismissed my pal Deborah and Orgasmic Childbirth as if by waving some sort of magical, mystical, (dare I say it?) INTUITIVE wand you could just dismiss the experience of thousands of mothers and breezily say, “didn’t happen, and I’m a doctor Dammit”.
I pretty much felt like taking a bath after I read Push Back. Icky icky stuff.
I will post the chapter headings because they really do encapsulate it pretty well…
The book is broken into three parts.
Part One: Subverting the Science (It was interesting to me that despite how much she is always yelling about science, over and over in the book it was anecdotes that were used to illustrate various points.)
Chapter 1: Natural Childbirth is Nothing Like Childbirth in Nature
Chapter 2: Interventions are Preventive Medicine
Chapter 3: There is NO BENEFIT to Refusing Pain Relief
Chapter 4: The Right C-Section Rate (Not surprisingly she justifies it right where it is at in America right now at 30% – makes no mention of the fact that certain hospitals have 80 to 90% rates)
Chapter 5: Breast is NOT always Best
Chapter 6: There’s no Science That Supports Attachment Parenting
Part II The Natural Parenting Industry
Chapter 7: Who Hijacked Childbirth?
Chapter 8: The Commodification of Birth
Chapter 9: The Business of Brestfeeding
Part III A Sexist Philosophy of Privilege
Chapter 10: How Natural Parenting is Anti-Feminist
Chapter 11: Women do NOT have other ways of knowing
Chapter 12: Sanctimommies and the Joys of Sharing
Conclusion – Push Back Against the Guilt of Natural Parenting
For all of Dr. Amy’s harping on those who make a buck or two off of the promotion of natural mothering, the big, fat, noxious, pink, drunk, elephant in the room is the amount of money parents shell out to pay for medical prenatal care and hospital birth. Nothing is mentioned of the financial costs of NICU care for sick babies, the high rates of depression, anxiety, and trauma for mothers and babies when birth is highly mechanistic, and/or the increasing medical tyranny encapsulated by the term “medical kidnappings“.
The very first essay on parenting I wrote back in 1999 was titled Family Sovereignty. I personally believe that Dr. Amy began her first blog Homebirth Debate as a response to the final paragraph of my essay, which had an unbelievable amount of traffic all over the web for years after I wrote it.
In that final paragraph I asked…
“As I have struggled to make decisions for and in behalf of my children until they are old enough to make their own choices, I have come to adopt a few principles and beliefs about Knowledge, Freedom, and Self Government. I hope to create a dialog on Family Sovereignty that moves way beyond the current supposedly relevant debates over day care and nationalized health care. I am interested in debating with those professionals who think they know best how children should be birthed, nurtured, healed, and educated and would use the courts to force their cult of professionalism on those of us who are following our hearts to a more gentle and empowered lifestyle. So, let the debate begin….”
I have spent just about every spare moment these past 17 years engaged in that debate on dozens of forums all over the web. I appreciate Dr. Amy for one reason and one reason alone. She provides PERFECT counterpoint to the debate and can always be counted on to spew in the most noxious way her thoughts on the most precious thing in my life.
If you would like to read my own thoughts on Mothering just check out my books on Amazon!
Navel Gazing Narcissist Mommies of the World UNITE!!!
If you would like to read my previous posts on Dr. Amy, which are some of my high traffic posts on this blog, just scroll down to the bottom to click on the links.
The most high trafficked post about the dear doctor is my open and most public and serious apology…
And finally, who am I to make any sort of a claim of sovereignty over my own body, and the bodies and minds of my children? We the people know that we exist to provide you and your credentialed colleagues with a livelihood. And we also know that if the majority of healthy parents were to pull out of the obstetric model your children who are currently matriculating through med school might not be able to pay off their student loans.
And we also know that because you spent the first half of your life in school you DESERVE to live a certain lifestyle, while we parents in the financial trenches work odd jobs to pay our taxes and the future abomination that is Obamacare. We know that because we were not smart enough to get into Medical School we do not DESERVE to do much more than work as slaves to the medical model of birth and bow down to the church of modern medicine.
BLOG POSTS ABOUT THE INFAMOUS DR. AMY WRITTEN BY JENNY HATCH
Once in a while I go read Dr. Amy Tooter MD at the skeptical OB just to see what she’s bleating about, and as I read the top article on her blog last night, was gobsmacked that she acknowledged the increasing maternal mortality rate as being problematic. For a minute I wondered if she had asked Ina May Gaskin to guest blog a post for her.
The post was so intellectually honest, I had to actually go skim through all of her posts from the past few weeks just to make certain I was in fact on Dr. Amy Tutuers Tooters MD Blog.
I was just over at the Home Birth Conclusion….I mean, Debate Blog and read this post by Dr. Amy about Evolutionary biology.
For me, this is the crux of the debate and it is why I will never come to a meeting of the minds with people who believe what she believes.
“A basic principle of homebirth advocacy is that women are “designed to give birth”. A variety of further claims flow from this: birth shoulded be “trusted” because it is designed to work; the incidence of death in childbirth must be low or “we wouldn’t be here”; complications are caused by intervening with the natural process instead of respecting it. These claims are spectacularly wrong because the basic principle is spectacularly wrong.
Women are not “designed”. Their bodies are the result of evolution. Evolution does not create perfection. It produces a wide variation in many traits and then selects for those that improve survival in the existing environment. The scientific discipline of evolutionary biology seeks to apply our knowledge of evolution to understanding the basis of human health and health problems. It has important implications for our understanding of childbirth and it reveals why claims that women are “designed” to give birth vaginally are both unscientific and foolish.”
Those who have been most brutalized and manipulated during Allopathic birth are often those most unwilling to look at homebirth as a reasonable option.
We now live in a world where the vast majority of Mothers have been groomed to accept birth rape as normal and healthy, and where most Fathers have been groomed to believe the best thing they can do for their wives is to hand them over to the medical profession when the baby is due to be born, and then humbly pay the bills.
We who have experienced the joy and beauty of homebirth want to yell to those families…”Free yourselves! Freedom and health are waiting for you just on the other side of your leap of faith.”
What she fails to mention is the fact that mothers who choose homebirth and have a baby die almost NEVER return to the hospital for a subsequent birth. We homebirthers know that sometimes babies die despite all efforts to make certain they will live. But that does not mean we will subject ourselves and our little ones to the various indignities and defilements of a profession gone mad.
Many mothers do not experience painless birth as the depth of the episiotomy tends to damage the nerves in the vagina. Also most women find it nearly impossible to get relaxed enough to experience a birth orgasm while a stranger is drugging their bodies into oblivion.
But whether a mother has a full blown orgasmic birth or just has a nice painless birth, both are possible with proper education, nutrition, relaxation, and a nice birthing environment in which to labor.
Now if you want to understand the reason that mothers are putting birth vids all over the web and helping to smash the medical model into oblivion where it belongs, you need to realize that we love our daughters and do not want to see them bullied and beat up while they welcome their babes in the coming decades.
Amy seems really attached to her keyboard, which she has used for the past few years to dump on all of us who like to give birth to our babes at home.
I think of her as the kill joy of the Freebirth Movement. At every juncture of her time on the web, whenever ANYONE is talking about Unassisted Childbirth or even just Homebirth, she arrives on the scene with her so called facts, figures, arrogance, and insight. Her all consuming voice cropping up any time birth is discussed long ago convinced me that she was just a Blogging sock puppet created by the Pharma Companies and that “She” is in fact ten guys on a lap top somewhere in New York City who work full time writing her blog and posting her crap all over the web.
My friend Dr. Stuart James Fischbein MD used his blog to retort to Dr. Amy in 2011. Give it a read, he makes some excellent points.